I checked the CSS list and this school isn’t on it, I was aware that they require non custodial parent info.
We both do already defer max into 401k and HSA. But do not have the option to defer more to out years.
I appreciate that it may be a little hard to give advice because the situation we’re in is different, and I e been trying to keep it focused on the financing aspect. I’m not sure if anyone is familiar with the concept of “parental alienation “, but that’s our life. When my husbands lawyer had it put in the divorce to stipulate a max college payment equal to state schools, his ex-wife told the daughter that her dad was going to make her go to a special school away from all her friends. The mother told D that she lays in D’s bed and cries because she missed D so much. She told D that if D ever came to live with us, D wouldn’t be able to bring any of her things because the mother paid for everything so it was hers. Their relationship is very unhealthy, codependent, one psychologist said they were “enmeshed”
It’s a nightmare.
And we don’t really have any say in to what school. Even if we offered to foot the whole bill, the mother would emotionally manipulate D into not going.
But, it doesn’t look like there’s anything much we can do now other than wait to see if she’s accepted and what the aid package is.
Thank you,