<p>I’m one of the “delaying marriage” people. OR, to be more precise, I have made it clear to my partner of 9 years that I have NO interest in getting married any time in next 7 years, so he shouldn’t ask (or worry about it, if he doesn’t want to ask.) </p>
<p>Is it unfair? Well, it’s what I can do for my children. I see it as no different than families who make fiscal choices to benefit their college children – sacrificing to send them to private schools, tutoring, things like that. I can’t give my children the advantages that money brings, but I can set aside marriage for their benefit. It’s not that onerous to give up. I suppose if I was uncomfortable living with someone while unmarried, that would be different.</p>