<p>Calmom, very wise post. Thanks for the calm perspective.</p>
<p>Carmen, Thanks for clarifying what you meant by “skin in the game.” For all the argument of choice vs. necessity, my takeaway was that all parents do see to it that–one way or another, to varying degees–their kids have responsibility and accountability in their college funding. </p>
<p>And yes, you’re right, with the help of this thread and some added research, I’ve gotten past the freak-out stage and into acceptance (Stage 7 of **notrichenough **'s hilarious but accurate list in Post #63, a must-read). We do have choices, and if we decide to become “full payers” at the dream LAC we will do it with eyes wide open but also, as you put it, never knowing with certainty if we made “the right choice.” We are blessed to have such choices.</p>