<p>Figuring it out doesn’t mean you get what you want. It means you learn to recognize the differences and work with them. Frankly, my husband has some qualities that have been completely beneficial for my children. So while I may be frustrated about housework and such, with his influence, we have two lovely, successful children who have very kind spirits and are respectful of others. I had some influence but so did he. They benefited from both.</p>