financial aid with parents and grandparents buying a house together

It takes ten minutes to fill out the gift form, maybe 12. So you don’t need to contort yourself in a hurry. Avoiding the form is NOT a good reason to forfeit sound financial and estate planning here!

Life Insurance- enough for the wage earners to cover paying off the mortgage, supporting the families? Disability?

Do a comprehensive plan first. Rushing to gift to avoid the hassle of a simple form seems foolish to me.