@paulster69, If you can pay the net costs without borrowing, that’s great news for your daughter. If you can’t, don’t allow yourself to be swayed by your daughter’s tears. Kids bloom where they’re planted. The distress they feel now at not being able to attend their dream school is nothing to the distress of facing large loan payments as newly minted grads who were allowed to follow the dream. The career after graduation is the dream, not the short 4 years of college.