Five tips for parents sending a child off to college

[JustAMomOf4]

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But if she actually cries in front of me I will feel SO bad and will worry about her after she leaves, it rips my heart right out of my chest to see my mother cry. So I hope she saves that for when she gets home. It is an awful, awful thing to watch your parents cry. It’s gotten easier as I’ve gotten older but it is still extremely heart wrenching and that’s just not what I want to be focusing on when I move, I want to have fun and not be overly concerned with the separation. So I hope, for my sake, my mom waits until she leaves the building to cry. I can understand she misses me without feeling like I am being kicked in the chest repeatedly.

This is so important - it bears worth repeating.
This is what I am talking about when I say to parent’s that this is not about THEM. This should be their CHILD’S DAY.</p>

<p>TwistedxKiss - don’t take it to heart too much. I know what you mean about seeing parents cry.<br>
jym626 - to clairfy:
I am not talking about wiping away a few tears. I am talking about nearly full blown temper tantrums. Yes, they happen. It’s embarrassing and ugly. Telling a child that you will miss them so much you won’t know what to do - etc…
If you have not witnessed this then you haven’t been to enough move-in days.
You have heard testimony from kids who have witnessed this and don’t like it; kids who know it’s coming and don’t like it. Why should they not get what they want on their day?</p>

<p>When parents say that the feelings of smilodon’s and TwistedxKiss parents come first - to me what you are saying is this day is about the parents and not the child.</p>

<p>BTW - I cry at everything. Just ask my kids. There are certain times when I will control my emotions in front of them for their sake.</p>