<p>TwistedxKiss, thank you very much for your comments; your perspective is extremely helpful.</p>
<p>4 days after the separation, I can say this much: Our best conversations are those that are similar to the conversations we had before D left. Banter, small daily happenings, and trying to one-up each other with jokes – these are the conversations that leave us both feeling that although the distance is great, the connection is unchanged. </p>
<p>I’m resisting the temptation to say “Honey, how are you REALLY?” I’ve already discovered that if she wants to talk at a deeper level, she’ll let me know.</p>
<p>I’m letting her initiate contact, and firmly suppressing my mommy instinct that wants to know where is she, what is she doing, and why hasn’t she called for 6 hours? </p>
<p>And we are both saying “I love you” much more frequently.</p>