<p>Bay, you are twisting my words. It would have been good/better/nice/preferable/insert whatever word you want if he had stepped up right away. I didn’t say that it was a “nice gesture.” That’s BS. It’s his responsibility.</p>
<p>The major point, to me, is that he realizes he was wrong and plans to accept and act on his responsibility as a father, although he faltered at first. And he came to this before the baby was born, not turning up years later and wanting to be daddy. Yeah, he isn’t a perfect human being. But he seems to be better than many.</p>
<p>Lake Washington, are you saying that because other people are treated inhumanely, he should be too? Really? (Since a goodly portion of the west coast seems to depend on cheap immigrant labor, why do we not at least have legal guest worker status for such people, that would allow them to live openly, pay taxes, etc?)</p>
<p>Apparently this was his mother’s last hope. His father is an illegal immigrant and couldn’t leave without risking not being able to come back. His father has to support the two younger siblings, both of whom were born here. So he was the one who had to go. Did you miss the part where they talked about his having applied for formal permission and gone though the process, but finally his mother ran out of time? I suppose they could have sent the 16 yr old brother instead, since he is a citizen. Let us not forget that this guy was brought here as a toddler, and didn’t even know he wasn’t a legal immigrant until late in HS.</p>
<p>Consolation, don’t pollute this thread with actual facts 
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<p>and what? The H student wasn’t? </p>
<p>As i said, the father has two younger children to support. The H student does not. Is that difficult to comprehend? I thought people were all about parental responsibility?</p>
<p>The point was that neither the son nor the father could leave without a significant risk. The son might not have been admitted back into the US, and he would have been stuck in a country w/o the rest of his family and with no means to continue his education. </p>
<p>After being here all those years, did the family not know one citizen who could have gone with the mom? </p>
<p>If it was your dying mother, would you send a stranger?</p>
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<p>Not a stranger! Who said anything about a stranger?</p>
<p>OK, not a stranger, but I’d want to send a family member with my dying mother.</p>
<p>I guess I don’t understand The Plan…</p>
<p>I would guess that the mom went to Mexico in hopes that she would be cured (otherwise, why go?). So, what if she had been? Was the plan for her to stay there?..while H and younger kids were stuck in the US? What if she couldn’t come back to the US? If the answer is, “well, it’s better than being dead.” If that is the decision, then Dad and younger kids should have gone with her. And, if that weren’t possible, then send a family friend with her who has citizenship.</p>
<p>I’m guessing The Plan was that she would get cured, and if that miracle happened, they could make another Plan.</p>