@PilotKyle I talk a lot with friends about our children and college decisions. I think it is a lot like buying a house. Once you’ve been through it, you learn a lot. Talking with others helps you navigate not only the process, but also long-term implications that are sometimes over-looked. (ie. You can fall in love with the aesthetics of a house, but there’s so much more to consider. It often requires a practical, long-term view, which may be difficult for a first time buyer.)
In other words, most parents are trying to help and in many cases are the ‘bank’. In your case, (fair or unfair) your parents have made their intentions clear. Seeking information and help is mature on your part. Judging others can be futile. Just keep in mind that we never know the whole picture on this or any message board.
Good luck!..and I hope this post makes sense. I confess I’m multi-tasking here.