<p>There are lots of parents on this board (and elsewhere, obviously) who could provide plenty of examples to the contrary: kids who get that there are numerous Saturday night social events that are emphatically not study groups, kids who are personable and outgoing and very happy there. </p>
<p>Swat is not for everybody, there’s no question about that. But it’s worth honing in on the fact that in the case you’re highlighting, SWHarborfan, the kid was pushed to enroll by his parents. That’s a recipe for unhappiness to begin with.</p>