Me too. I love sharing my H’s name.
Don’t really care what others do (keep maiden, hyphen, whatever) and up to this point didn’t contribute to the discussion because I had no opinion on it…but that statement hit me and made me smile.
I happily changed my name to my husband’s, because his is shorter and hard to mess up. I’ve never had any difficultie because of the change.
I thought that would be the case, ML, when I gave up my maiden name and the list of publications associated with it. Oy… I was so wrong! I should have inquired first. My married name gets misspelled and mispronounced up all the time! 
I kept my Fa’s name. It’s an historic name,dating back to Biblical times. My son has my name. When I became a single mom, and moved near to my parents, it was nice we all had the same name. My FA was always supportive, as no one else to carry on the name.
In all honesty, I could say I had published papers and a book in FA’s name, but I tend to think I wanted to know the name would be carried forward.
I also would have been happy to have had my Mom’s maiden name. That name is on a synagogue, a university building, etc. it has a beautiful,sound and a lovely meaning.
Long ago, in a faraway land, 
my DH used to explain that I didn’t take his last name because his family had worked long and hard to keep up that good name and weren’t about to let just anyone take it on. 
On the other hand, a relatively well defined tradition of double surnames such as that used by many Latinos may make genealogy easier in such a family.
Of course, fathers are slightly less certain of paternity than mothers are of maternity.
If I ever decide to get married, I’d make sure my wife changes her last name since it’s weird for guys to do that. I also never liked the double last names with hyphens.
Gee, I’m so glad your potential future wife has a say in HER name. (Checks calendar to make sure it is 2015…) 8-|
stugace - why would either of you have to change your name?
Haven’t you been keeping up, FallGirl? To show a higher level of commitment, honoring the Man and all that, smh. That’s apparently why it’s weird for men to change theirs-THEY have no need to show such commitment being men and all.
Never considered changing my birth name when I married 30 years ago. My M did say at the time that she was worried it indicated a lack of commitment, but I think we’ve long since disproven that theory. MIL has always just misspelled it
D has a hyphenated last name; for years she swore she would date only guys with short names (and come to think of it, she did), but her current BF’s last name has just as many syllables as hers.
How does someone know a pair is married if they both have different last names? There’s also the traditional aspect of it all and it’s not like anyone’s life is being jeopardized.
@stugace Then you should just be sure to change your last name to whatever your future wife’s is. As you say, it’s not as if your life is being jeopardized
stugace-you’re just spoofing us, right? When we meet someone, we say "Hi. I’m Sseamom, this is my husband, “Sseadad”. Or, "Hi. My name is Sseamom. My H is “XYZ”, that’s him over there."Same as you would greet anyone, whether you had the same last name or not, right? You’re a college student, yes? Did you really not know this?
Tradition in many Spanish-influenced cultures does not require the husband and wife to have the same surnames.
http://perez.cs.vt.edu/twolastnames
For example (from the above), suppose a Mr. Pérez Quiñones marries a Ms. Padilla Falto. The wife may keep her surnames or optionally change it to Padilla Pérez (note that, in both cases, her first surname does not change, and her surnames are different from her husband’s). The family will be known as the Pérez Padilla family, and the children will have those surnames.
For another example, the current president of Mexico, Enrique Peña Nieto, has parents named Gilberto Enrique Peña del Mazo and María del Perpetuo Socorro Ofelia Nieto Sánches.
Of course, you have the option to change your surname to that of your wife.
Traditions are meant to be broken.
Particulary when they restrict instead of expand.
I changed my name when I got divorced. My first name, that is.
Lololol. If someone can’t figure out we’re married (in my marriage) by our matching wedding rings or introducing each other as spouse, I’m pretty sure the same last name isn’t going to help. If someone is truly that oblivious, I assume they assume the matching last names would mean we’re siblings
I introduce Mr. R by first name anyway. I don’t even think half of my newer friends realize we don’t have the same last name. And truly, no one cares.
@stugace ,
I changed my name when we got married, and would do the exact same thing 26 years later.
I think that people are objecting to the idea that you’ll “make sure” your wife changes her name, just as you would “make sure” your children get their vaccinations… you know, for their own good, because you know better.
As you grow, you’ll learn that relationships between adults don’t work that way. Neither “makes sure” that the other does what THEY want. Sure, my husband is diabetic, and I try to “make sure” that he avoids junk food. But, at the end of the day, he’s an adult, and his choices are his choices. I’m not his mommy, I’m his wife.
Finding the right person involves finding a shared value system. If this is a deal-breaker for you in a relationship, fine. But please don’t expect your future wife to do as you decree, simply because you’re the husband. Because if you do, I’m guessing the relationship won’t last long.