most parents don’t like to (or won’t admit) that for their particular child (or all of their children as it is in some families) the difference between #3 or 30 or 100 or 120 won’t make a darn bit of difference.
But it doesn’t. And it won’t matter if your kid is at a college where Tony Blair is debating the Dalai Lama on the use of military force on indigenous populations on Monday, and Yo Yo Ma is giving a Master class which is open to the public on Tuesday, and on Wednesday the university museum is hosting the head of European Painting at Sotheby’s doing a panel discussion with the museum’s curators on how current collecting trends are distorting the world’s art markets, with a Q&A led by the chairman of the university’s art history department. And so on… every single day, at least twenty fabulous events, for free to any undergraduate- all day, every day.
If YOUR kid is going to college to get his/her ticket stamped, whether to get that precious 3.9 GPA for med school (even when it means repeating a class he or she took in HS and already got an A in, AND taking every gut the university offers), or because he or she is actually majoring in beer pong, not economics, or your kid spends 20 hours a week on sorority activities or whatever…
Send your kid anywhere and honestly, the rankings are irrelevant. For every kid who “needs” to be at Penn because of the fantastic research opportunities and the incredible academic offerings and the very deep bench strength of the faculty- I’ll show you 10 kids who are there for the branding that a Penn degree confers (or they think it confers).
Back in the day (boy am I old) we went to stuff at the university museum because it was free and they served wine (drinking age was 18). Back in the day we went to poetry readings and classical music concerts and lectures and what-not because the number of ways to entertain yourself were pretty limited besides the TV in the dorm lounge or a movie at the local art house (if you didn’t have a car at my college, the bus had limited service after 8 pm. So we stayed on campus). Along the way- we got educated. Lectures, symposia, performances, theatrical events- that’s what you did on the weekends, that’s how you entertained yourself when you burnt out on the library.
Now? Kids play computer games like they did when they were 13 and living at home. They watch TV on their devices and someone orders in a pizza. They work out listening to their spotify. I know college kids living in some of the most robust intellectual environments on the planet who have never entered a university museum or archive or attended a lecture which wasn’t assigned for class.
So don’t kid yourself. Not every kid “needs” to be at number 8 or 12 or 30. If all they’re going to do is hang with their high school friends in a dorm or frat house and watch episodes of Friends while high or drunk… it’s ok for them to be at college ranked number 120. Really- it’s ok. The faculty at that college will be superb- that’s how deep the bench is in academia. And the other stuff? They won’t partake, so you don’t need to worry about it.