<p>What Siliconvalleymom is saying is very important. You may also want to get help from any mental health services your college provides. They deal with situations like yours all of the time.</p>
<p>Here’s the big thing, however. You are an adult. You have been since you were 18 and have really not grown up in terms of independence. So it is with many of our college students. It’s a a bipolar type existance of being a child and yet and adult. Young people your age are fighting wars, raising families, totally independent. You are still calling mom and dad when you are feeling down. </p>
<p>The truth of the matter is that your parents are at loss as to any advice to give you. As such a parent myself for a number of my kids on a number of issues, I truly sympathize for them. They drew out a path for you and were willing to support you on it, but now that you are no longer on it, they are at loss as to what to say or do… This is exactly what they wanted to avoid. I’m not saying you were wrong to change your direction, but that when you did so, you really are on your own as your parents don’t know how to guide you on this way. You are an adult, so there is no reason they should have to do so. I wish that we parents could be more comforting, more honest and not blow up when these things happen, but it hurt when we can’t help our kids and feel that this was exactly what they tried to avoid for you, </p>
<p>Something that does amaze me about this generation is how dependent they are on parents. Most everyone I knew in college and even high school kept parents out of the loop when we had issues that we knew would only cause our parents pain and when they could not help. Sometimes we went too far. But, man oh man, the stuff parents are getting from their kids these days, mine included, boggles my mind. There are things that parents can specifically help you with and there are things they cannot. I wish kids had the wisdom to know the difference.</p>