<p>I’m not Indian, nor am I an immigrant, but I have a similar situation with my son.</p>
<p>I have a wonderful high school son who is your age, who can be a very good student if he applies himself, and he does, but not as much as he reasonably could, as he does fall short grade wise when there is no question that a bit more, not a nose grinding amount more, could have gotten him an "A: instead of that "B+:. </p>
<p>His absolute favorite activity is football. He loves the sport and has for a long time. He so enjoys playing it. He is not a star, not a starter, not first string even. He gets some playing time, but not always. He is not built to be a football player, and I worry about him getting hurt. It is not an irrelevant concern. Every year, a number of football players get hurt, and sometimes severely. It also takes up a lot of his time. All year, it does, as they have to stay in condition, which means the weight room twice a week and touch ups during the summer even before the official practice season is permitted to start, and it would be very foolish to scrimp on those workouts as they build you up physically for the rigors and dangers of the practices and games to come.</p>
<p>And then when the practices come, that’s the main event, no way around it. He comes home from practice exhausted. Then there are the games, some of the hours away, which means a whole day gone for some of them. </p>
<p>He does not love academics. He has some pride in doing well, but he isn’t someone who enjoys academics. He loves football. </p>
<p>He also has some bad habits and does do thngs he is not supposed to do and doesn;t do things he is supposed to do, and is increasingly not listening to me. What can I do to make him do things as simple as take out the garbage, start your homework before the evening is nearly gone, don’t talk back in that tone and say those mean things…I think influence on the lives of a great many of his players, and that he was generous in donating we all know the routine here with teens and young adults. </p>
<p>So what do I do as a parent? i</p>