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<p>I’m the father of eight children, I love them all dearly, and I want them to succeed. I understand how it feels when they are in pain. It’s a terrible feeling, and I feel for you.</p>
<p>I didn’t mean what I said to be judgmental. But it is the most likely explanation. I don’t know why he’s not getting the grades he thinks he deserves, but my experience has been that, with a few exceptions, the grades one gets really are the grades one earns (except in my undergrad classes this year, where the grades one gets are much better than the grades one earns).</p>
<p>I can understand how he must feel isolated. Because of Chicago’s house system, this must be a particularly difficult problem for transfers, though it’s a real strength for those who matriculate there from their first years, I think. This is the kind of situation that would make almost anyone unhappy.</p>
<p>I wish you and your son well.</p>