<p>Don’t send flowers! For a college-age boy, flowers give the wrong message. Funeral flowers are so expensive that they’re another way of seeming involved–they will say to the girl and her family, “He must really care! He spent a fortune on flowers!” </p>
<p>Go to the store, buy a simple, inexpensive Hallmark condolence card, sign it, and mail it to her house. Address it to the family. No note, no enclosures, no flowers.</p>
<p>OK, fair enough, I agree with wackymother.</p>
<p>Yea, I think I’m going to show up for a few minutes, but not bring flowers or anything.</p>
<p>I’m not going to discuss our relationship. That thought never crossed my mind. I could go and just say sorry for the loss. Her parent’s would surely be mature enough to accept that, right?</p>
<p>Adad, I’ve thought about volunteering, but never really looked too much into it. What do you mean too self-absorbed?</p>
<p>And I’ve actually been fine today. I’m just worried about how it will be when I see her for the first time. Mainly how she’ll be. </p>
<p>To you that think I’m leading her along, I’m doing nothing of the sort. The last thing I want is more “I miss you” calls.</p>