<p>This is what I’ve been wondering for a long time as a guy.</p>
<p>Which do you prefer?</p>
<p>Lean guys or buff guys?</p>
<p>By lean, I’m not necessarily saying skinny, but when you see him with clothes on (he might be quite buff without one), you can’t really tell if he has muscles.</p>
<p>By buff, just the opposite. You can tell he’s really muscular without taking his clothes off.</p>
<p>So which?</p>
<p>I wouldn’t define "buff"ness by what a guy looks like with a shirt on…at the same time, if a girl likes a guy with some muscle on him, she probably won’t have a chance to see him without his shirt off to tell. So maybe you have a point. I’d say in general girls like muscle, because they’re probably wary of guys who weigh less than they do, which is difficult not to do without muscle considering our two selective pockets of fat. With that said, the fact that guys can improve their physical appearance so much by working out goes a long way - “ugly” guys can still be attractive if they’re fit, while girls don’t have this opportunity at all.</p>
<p>Anyway, I think that in looking for somebody of the opposite sex, you shouldn’t expect more than you are: that is to say, if you’re an overweight dude, you can’t expect to snag a stick of a girl in your current condition. If you’re a boring girl, expect to settle for a boring guy. Etc. With this in mind, here’s my personal list:</p>
<ol>
<li>Be ridiculously intelligent. I’m not exactly looking at SAT score/GPA, but I appreciate a guy who can do the whole snarky-banter thing and then switch into deep conversation when it’s called for. I appreciate a guy who’s well-read, who has his own intellectual pursuits and who can put up with listening to me ramble about biomechanics without making me feel like I’m going over his head.</li>
<li>Be in excellent shape. I can run a half-marathon and play club lacrosse; I expect you to be able to do something of this sort with me. I don’t expect a varsity track athlete, but be passionate about and above average at some sort of physical activity. Here, there’s a delicate balance - I’m not attracted to stick-thin XC runners, but I’m also not attracted to guys with arms bigger around than my thigh. </li>
<li>Have a sense of roguishness or cockiness about you. I’m not a nice girl, and I’d get bored in a relationship with a nice guy. Be sarcastic, be blunt, challenge me, and don’t let me be less than my best.</li>
<li>Taller than me. Girls like guys who can toss them around a bit if need be (nudge nudge, wink wink). I’m 5’7" and probably wouldn’t date below 5’9".</li>
<li>Capable of partying, drinking, and generally unwinding without letting that scene become a lifestyle. I go out a few nights a week, I can drink like my Scandinavian ancestors, but I know when to stop, I’m interesting when I’m not drunk, and I don’t settle for any drunk tail wanting to hook up with me. I expect the same in a guy.</li>
<li>Be interesting. Have ideas for things to do, roadtrips to take, places to visit. There’s a time and a place for sitting around watching you play video games, but it is not 24/7. Have a life and stories outside of the time we’ve been acquainted.</li>
</ol>
<p>Man that was long. I got way too into answering this question hahaha.</p>
<p>I hate how ‘being tall’ is so damn ubiquitously important to women.</p>
<p>I think most girls just say that. Girls just don’t like feeling larger than the guy they’re with, it makes them feel big/fat/unfeminine. So I don’t think it’s necessarily that all girls want guys who are super tall, just taller than them.</p>
<p>That’s exactly what I mean.</p>
<p>If a guy is short he has to work 10x harder than the guy 4 inches taller than him to get a girl his height.</p>
<p>This difficulty grows exponentially for every inch the women is taller than the guy, making dating taller women very difficult.</p>
<p>I’m just kind of bitter because I am 5’4 and usually only attracted athletic women(basketball players) that tend to be 5’7+.</p>
<p>-Sweet
-Polite
-Smiles and laughs a lot!
-And then the chemistry…secretly weird/akward/adventurous, like me. : )</p>
<p>Phair1x23…I see what you’re saying but at the same time, you only being attracted to taller girls is just like girls being attracted to taller guys. That just means shorter girls have to work that much harder for you, no?</p>
<p>And Maruhan2, I definitely prefer lean guys. I’m okay with slightly chubby or a little skinny, too. And I like muscle. I guess I’m not very picky with body types, as long as the guy isn’t hugely muscular. I mean, Taylor Lautner is really buff, but any guy with more muscle than that is just gross to me. If they had the same personality, I’d rather date a really overweight or underweight guy than a bodybuilder. Ew. :/</p>
<p>Hmm…my list.
<p>That’s about it. As long as I can be myself around him, I’m happy. :)</p>
<p>Okashii, I definitely agree about the goals in life thing. 
He would at least have to have some sort of potential/ambition along with his intellectual strengths. </p>
<p>I admit, I’m a sucker for the rugged, mussed-like-I-just rolled-out-of-bed-but-probably-took-3-hours-on-my-hair-alone kinda guy. Yes, a sucker for hawt hair, haha. Indeed. </p>
<p>He also has to be decent looking, and hopefully taller than me (I’m 5’5"). I don’t mind so much about religion and political backgrounds, as long as he’s open to new things/opportunities. I like a good debate Although usually someone with definite religious and political convictions is hard to convince (maybe I’m not convincing?)</p>
<p>I would probably want a guy with a witty/maybe dry sense of humor, or at least an ability to be honest to the point of bluntness (what’s the point of beating around the bush?). ;)</p>
<p>I guess sorta like everyone seems to (mostly) agree; someone that makes them happy!</p>
<p>Phair1x23: I feel your pain - I’m 5’3.</p>
<p>How important is pe.nis size? Mine is only 5.5 inches erect and I’m worried girls won’t want to be with me when they find out.</p>
<p>that’s basically my size too…</p>
<p>5.5 inches seems too small. I really wish it was bigger. but I’m 19 so it looks like I’m stuck with this tiny size</p>
<p>It sucks</p>
<p>^^…Come on now…surely you can manage with it quite well!! :)</p>
<p>@ Lil Wayne Fan: nah dude, that’s pretty much the standard size</p>
<p>Cute, funny, athletic, honest, confident, and genuine</p>
<p>What about this: do you like guys who talk fast and rarely stutter in a sentence but speak with 100% confidence, or guys who are cool, calm, and confident-slower when they speak?</p>
<p>They like confident guys who ignore them. The end.</p>
<p>^QFT</p>
<p>Having a six pack doesn’t hurt either</p>
<p>Face like Gaspard Ulliel lol.</p>
<p>Girls: Do you perfer guys with Short or Long Hair?</p>
<p>and as for long i mean this long</p>
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