<p>I agree with Pugmadkate. I was once in the situation where I considered giving one of our dogs away. He fought viciously with the other dog once he hit adulthood, and the fights were terrible. We tried everything to change the situation. </p>
<p>One of my son’s teachers was looking for a dog of this breed, after losing her family pet, and I knew that woudl be a wonderful home for a dog that just did not want to share people. We discussed it as a family, and though no one was happy with the idea, we all could see why it could be a better situation for all concerned, including the dogs.</p>
<p>However, the problem abated just about then. Though the jealous one still tensed up and was most unhappy at times–ears back, hair up, he learned to control his temper and leave the room when he felt that way. It took months of time outs for him to get it, but he did. There would still be tension and some under the breath growls, but the knock down, drag out fights stopped. Had they continued, however, I think we would have given the dog away, even though none of us were happy about doing it.</p>
<p>Of course, they should tell the children. What a cowardly thing not to tell them. There are a few situations where the appearances should be maintained for the comfort of some, but this certainly is not one of them.</p>
<p>^^ You could have used ‘The Dog Whisperer’.</p>
<p>It’s great that these kids have the offer to visit their pet whenever. My guess is their visits will become less and less frequent. Maybe the little gal can come over and brush the pooch periodically…and play with him. It will be good for her and for the pooch.</p>
<p>Helen,
I wouldnt have the dog write her at all. You inviting her to visit as often as she likes is fine. But i think letting her determine the amount of involvement and connection is better.
If she thinks the dog is unhappy and missing her, she will feel worse. When she comes, a comment of how much the dog enjoys seeing her old friend is great, and maybe how a dog wont forget someone they love.
And you should go ahead and enjoy your dog! The happier you all are together, the happier the girl will be , too!</p>
<p>You might also suggest to the girl that since she knows the dog so well, and the dog still loves her, that she might take care of the dog should you have to go out of town for a day or 2. Black labs are great!!! (And they have room in their hearts to love many people!)</p>
<p>I thought I’d invite the girl along the next time I take Jasmine out to the park. I want to be able to tell her that Jasmine wasn’t coming over to visit me all the time because she loved me more, it was because I was home and they weren’t. This way she can play with Jasmine whenever she has free time, but then Jasmine won’t be lonely and sad when they’re too busy, because somebody is always home at our house.</p>