<p>I know one person who went home every weekend. She never integrated into college life or met new people. Married a guy from her home town who never went to college and now they live there.</p>
<p>Is this wrong? Not necessarily. College can be a means to only a degree and job opportunities or it can open a person to new experiences and new ideas. It’s about what someone wants to experience- even if they end up in home town with home town spouse.</p>
<p>That said- I am a mom, and a new adult student is responsible for maintaining a relationship too. I do hope my kids will call and visit enough for us to stay in touch with each other, but IMHO, visiting and calling all the time would inhibit their growth and independence. I may not like some of the new ideas they come home from college with, but I want to hear about what they are learning and appreciate it when they share their ideas.</p>
<p>Likewise, we have to learn to let go and adjust to a new phase of life. </p>
<p>I miss them, but I hope that if I send them to college they will make the most of it and become independent adults with lives and minds of their own. They don’t want to come home every weekend and I don’t want them to. It’s not good for either of us.</p>
<p>But please kids, be considerate. We do want to know you are alive and not abducted by aliens… and if you travel somewhere far away- let us know you arrived safely when you go and return. It’s nice to know kids remember our birthdays and such.</p>