I don’t get the whole bubble thing? I mean if my kids did want to go to UNC I would be happy for them to come home whenever they wanted to — do laundry, pet the cats, chat with mom & dad, whatever. We can easily walk to campus from our house. It would be really weird to say ‘no you can’t come home — you must stay on campus’. My D22 walks to campus all the time from our house now and goes to Franklin Street almost every day where she is frequently assumed to be a UNC student. To bar her from walking or catching the bus to and from campus and home would be weird after she’s been doing that for years.
Folks I know in town whose kids go to UNC don’t have rules about their kids coming home that I am aware of, but most of them seem to want to stay on campus anyway. They want to be with their friends and not their parents, y’know?
Our home will always be open to our kids whenever they want to be here. I think being in town might make my kid less likely to want to come home. I think they would feel reassured just to know it was close by if they needed anything.
We would never pop by unannounced. We don’t roll that way. That’s a pet peeve for us.