I didn’t understand this until later because my eldest had a friend that was a really bad influence, but if you’ve raised your children with your morals, values, and your family’s expectations, they will eventually figure it out for themselves -who’s good for them, and who’s not so good for them.
Our eldest got into sports in high school, and developed a new social circle of athletic friends. This was not a welcome thing for the bad influencer. My daughter couldn’t “hang out” with the bad influencer because our daughter always had practice or was playing in tournaments. Our daughter’s self-esteem jumped tremendously being around the kids on the teams, plus, our daughter was a very good athlete and the friend just couldn’t compete with that.
My husband felt sorry for that girl and said that a lot of it had to do with the way the parents neglected her, and that we should feel sorry for her as well. So, we tried to include her in our family’s activities, but our daughter and the girl were never the same. When our daughter went away to college the girl no longer had anyone. Although the parents had money to send their child to college, the girl didn’t even attempt it, plus,I don’t think the grades were there.
I asked my daughter, when she would come back home for breaks, if she was going to see “Grace”. She would say, something like “not this trip”.
If your daughter’s friend is going to be on campus, she will eventually feel ostracized by being in the wrong place, because everyone around her will be a student. The job of the students to go to classes. The friend won’t have a security card/ ID to get into the building.
Your daughter will have to pay for another security card if she tries to get one for her friend. You have the money and you’ll get the email to pay for the card. The RA’s will eventually figure it out.
I’m really sorry that you have to go through this but I think that your daughter needs to go through this to realize what a drag her friend is gonna be on her future.