Have you considered UC San Diego? It has a focus on the performance of contemporary music, and Susan Narucki is on the faculty. http://musicweb.ucsd.edu/grad/grad-pages.php?i=204 They encourage collaboration between the composers and performance students - although I don’t know if they would allow you to study both, or write for the other performance students.
I do think you might run into issues in grad school getting your compositions performed (at least on official school concerts,) if there is a strong composition department there already and you’re not a part of it. Most of the works on the programs that are scheduled will be by the student composers and may not have spots for someone not in the program. And your fellow musicians may not have the extra time to perform your work. On the other hand, schools which don’t have a strong composition focus might welcome new pieces by performance students. On your list above those would be University of Houston, Oklahoma City University, Binghamton University and possibly University of North Texas, Florida State and Toronto. At the others you would certainly be in competition for performances with the composition students. On the other hand, wanting to sing New Music will make you extremely popular with the composers at the majority of the schools on your list.