My younger daughter actually graduated first. She did not walk in the graduation ceremony and did not want me there. I’m really done arguing with her over these things so I just let it go. Her roommate’s (and teammate) family wanted her to go out to lunch with them. Nope. She was in the NCAA tournament for her team the next weekend, so I went to that. She was kind of pissed that not many people sent her cards or gifts, but she was the one who didn’t want a big deal made of graduation. Two years before her boyfriend graduated and his parents through a big party like something out of the Godfather with envelopes of money being slipped into his pockets. Even if she had gone through with graduation, nothing like that would have happened.
Her sister graduated 6 months later and she DID want a big deal made of it, so we did have a lunch and flowers and pictures in the grad outfit. I think when younger daughter saw that she was a little disappointed that she hadn’t walked in graduation and had a party. Her decision and she had to live with it.