<p>There are spoiled kids who feel entitled, and there are impoverished kids who feel entitled. I don’t think it really has to do with their financial status.</p>
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<p>You need to get out more.</p>
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<p>I am sure you can find an example or five for ANY side of ANY arguement, though the key phrase in Oldfort’s quote is ’ I have not seen THAT many’, so obviously he/she has seen a few</p>
<p>What I see way more than the occasional entitled-sounding kid or parent is the “I am afraid I won’t get in anywhere- help me find a safety” post, or, sadly, the “I got in but I can’t afford to go” post. What is unfortunately all too common are the snarky, condescending insulting posts like “you need to get out more”. Absolutely uncalled for.</p>
<p>** the post linked in post # 202 is but one from a thread with 1725 posts. This was hardly the prevailing sentiment.</p>
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<p>Yes, I have seen some, but I also believe it is a normal, human feeling. It is no different then you when you have planned your whole trip (or major event) to the T, then have it ruined by something unexpected. I have a friend who never plans her trip, always goes on standby, and some how she always manages to get home for xmas and thanksgiving. I feel jeeped when I get bumped or snowed in when I have planned for everything.</p>
<p>For some of those parents (or students), they feel like “why not me” when they have worked so hard for something. But I don´t really think they feel like they are more “entitled” than someone else who got in. People often come on CC to vent, and I really don´t see anything wrong with it. Proudmom5 who wrote that rant is probably over it.</p>
<p>What I see more are parents who have not saved or planned for their kids college education are shocked and dismayed their kids are not eligible for FA or MA.</p>
<p>^ or those who feel entitled to merit or financial aid.</p>
<p>I thought that was an unfortunate post. But I found the reaction to it much more unfortunate and, quite frankly, rather horrifying, and utterly inexcusable. imho</p>
<p>ProudMom–who wrote that “rant”–also posted sevcral other things that have not been included (out of context quotes being a big CC issue)…but one that seems to happen a lot and seems to be done by the same people over and over and over to create controversy.</p>
<p>I never wrote “someone else got the spot”. I did write how pleased I was for every one of those, and that there were deserving. I wrote that my sons scores and ECs were largely better…but they were all fantastic scores and ECs. (All meaning those I was comparing to). I never–not once not ever–besmirched another kid. I spoke comparatively, and I supportively of everyone else. But that contextual support for everyone else is what doesnt get replayed. ANd yes it was clear to me–hooks and URMs and eetc matter and if you aren’t hooked or URM than the bar is higher. Its the truth. we all know it.</p>
<p>I also wrote that while my son did indeed wind up at a top LAC–one that he is indeed enjoying immensely and is a good fit for–he was disappointed to not get into his top 4 and that the wait for seeing what happened with WL left us in limbo, and how that sucked. </p>
<p>I also wrote that I didnt want to enter anymore dialogue about the issue, because–as alh noted–the response was horrific and unkind and bullhying by some.</p>
<p>Yet here it is yet again. </p>
<p>So please–dont debate all this again. At least not as it relates to Proud Mom of S…or my son. Please.</p>
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<p>The link is provided for anyone who wants the complete message. </p>
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<p>If I had more time, I could find a lot more - just by browsing through the many “Asians face a higher bar” threads.</p>
<p>You know, anna’s dad, for one who professes to be particularly Christain, you are very judgemental.</p>
<p>I went to catholic school because my grandparents paid for it. I remember a LOT of quotes about the plank in your own eye, the throwing of stones, the “lest you be judged” part I always liked.</p>
<p>Kids who have worked very hard come on here and say a few things. Then they move on with their lives. Proudmom is a valued poster around here. She had her moment of sadness and disappointment. She got shellacked for it, too, if that’s the thread I’m thinking of, anyway. I mean, honestly. Are you a ■■■■■?</p>
<p>the funny thing is that I can recall at least one spirited debate with almost every poster on this thread. but, I always felt like we were really discussing an “issue,” and not like we were discussing each other’s children, if you know what I mean? Maybe that’s just something Mom’s learn. Keep to the principles, never the other person’s kids.</p>
<p>If a kid comes on and has a fit? So what? He/She is a kid. We let it lay there. They will mature and grow up. Time does that to us all.</p>
<p>@Annasdad, if anyone wants the complete context then – as jym pointed out—it is a very long thread, with multiple posts by many, and there is plenty of context that includes both that particular post and many many others. </p>
<p>I specifically stated I was bowing out of that thread; I have no intention of discussuing further either here or on that thread again either. </p>
<p>I thank any reader here in advance for understanding. I may be over what I originally posted about (you are largely right about that, thanks oldfort!) but there will be no further comment from me on the topic of our family experience.</p>
<p>The last word is that of ProudMomofS.</p>