Are you freaking KIDDING ME??? This is the most rampant sexist BS I have read in a LONG time. I sincerely hope you are NOT teaching your children this attitude. Are you really suggesting that, unlike for men, it’s not enough for women to be smart and competent and experienced – that they also have to wear “good perfume” and take yoga classes? So basically, it’s a woman’s job to make herself attractive to men in order to succeed in her career? And I find your comment about “sleeping to the top” to be incredibly offensive.
Back to the topic under discussion – I have a daughter who is very strong in math, and at one point I thought she might go into CS. I signed her up for some summer programming camps, where she felt “meh” about the subject matter, made a few good friends among the other girls, and pretty much universally disliked the boys. A lot of the boys were pretty socially clueless (hey, maybe they should take classes in how to talk to girls!) and a lot of them suffered from the problem mentioned in the article, where they were so eager to talk about what they knew that they came across as show-offs to the other students. I have a lot of sympathy with kids like that, so I don’t happen to think that they’re the problem here (in fact I think it’s good that they have a field to go into where their lack of social aptitude isn’t a career-killer; my older brother has Asperger’s and it has seriously limited his career advancement). But it does mean that teenage girls aren’t likely to want to major in something where they don’t really like most of the other students in their classes.
And of course this carries over to the workplace, which is why women who do graduate with degrees in CS often end up moving into other fields. I know a couple of women who started out as programmers and are now working in the communications-related part of the field – writing user guides and documentation, writing research papers, grant proposals, etc.