<p>OP- your D needs to get in touch with the Dean of Students at her college and get in writing the steps she needs to talk to get reinstated. when they say it will be on her permanent record that could mean many things- if she is reinstated next year (i.e. not September 2011 but 2012) it could get recorded as “withdrew” which is pretty innocuous- kids withdraw for all sorts of reasons ranging from taking a leave of absence due to finances, to illness, or whatnot. Or it won’t be recorded as Withdrew- it will be something else. So without more facts we can’t help you. And the nomenclature is important- there’s a mile of difference between your daughter taking a leave of absence vs. being suspended due to cheating, and we can’t tell you what the college is going to consider the absence until your D finds out.</p>
<p>So get some facts before you get riled.</p>
<p>Then, you need your D to be forthcoming about what she wants and what she plans to do. Was she already not planning to return to her college when this happened? Was this a pattern of bad judgement or a one time lapse? And if she doesn’t return- what is she going to do with her life???</p>