<p>^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
yep. don’t be afraid to let your go - they own their successes and their failures.</p>
<p>fencersmother - I have had a kid in college for 7 years now - (next year I will have 3) fun times! I have seen and heard just about all of it.<br>
There is a big difference between accompanying your son/daughter to a college visit and showing up every weekend to clean the dorm room and do the laundry - yep really happened and was not me! ;)</p>
<p>At college move in day back in 2001 - we parents were told by the director of the health center NOT to call her if they came home with extra piercings or a tatoo! Yep - parents did that.
I have heard parents calling the registrar if their kid didn’t get a certain class, emailing their professors if they did poorly on an exam etc…</p>
<p>My kids were the commsumate complainers - this teacher is not fair, these school rules are not fair etc… I would check it out in elementary, middle and early high school. Then I learned - if they really have an issue they will eventually deal with it themselves if I would not. Sometimes they just want to complain. When they got to college the complaining didn’t stop - I did learn not to listen to closely!
Back in the day - we had chores to do, we helped do the wash, clean the house and watch younger siblings. A game was just a game - our parents did not perceive of every soccer game to be the world cup. They went to home games but rarely away games. They were too busy with their lives to be our groupies. Times have changed for sure.<br>
One of my kids - played sports year round since about 3rd grade - was rarely home. At the age of 17 she actually asked me how to turn on the dishwasher - whoops. so we had a “learn how to operate major appliance day”.
I have another kid who could not remember homework in high school (1440 SAT) who insisted on going to college 10 hours away - we took bets on how long she would last - she is 3 years in, thriving and rarely comes home.
They will learn to survive - there will be bumps and bruises along the way but they will somehow manage - we did!</p>