Help! CC Lawyers? Manipulative divorcing friends and protecting a kid...

<p>^And who will pay for the girl’s lawyer?
Who will pay for the girl’s living expenses?
Who will pay for the girl’s educational expenses?
Is Spidey financially able to take over the responsibilities of the girl’s parents?</p>

<p>IMO–It’s commendable to want to help. On the other hand, this girl has two living parents.<br>
Step back–offer emotional support and friendship and leave the parenting/financial obligations/divorce proceedings up to them.</p>

<p>The OP said “Over the years, she has matured into a fully functional, amazing young adult” so I assumed it was in the daughter’s interest to know that the dad is pressuring her family. Sorry if I misunderstood. I certainly would want to know, and suspect the dad doesn’t want others to know.</p>

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<p>My comment is perhaps a little different:</p>

<p>The kid is 19 so you or your kid talk to her and say that if she needs a place to stay that you will be happy to have her stay with you. If she says she wants to do it, then you know there’s an issue and that she needs the help, so you have a moral obligation. Then you can decide if you want to talk to the father about him paying his kid’s cost in some fashion. The key point is that the kid is old enough to decide and that she is the only one you care about in this mess so you or your kid talks to her and you do the right thing and offer to help her out - with no guilt strings attached but out of caring. This keeps you out of the middle as much as you can be while being caring toward the young woman who may need you.</p>