No reason to beat yourself up. You can only go to one school - and many kids apply all over the country. My kid did both Arizona, UMD, and UNC too.
You just need one affordable. So some of us did 20 - but our kids just go to one!!
It really depends on the budget and her gpa/sat - which i see you now provided.
The public OOS - short of merit - aren’t going to be aggressive - so a UMD, Va Tech will cost more. A U of SC and U of Arizona have great merit - Arizona you know before you even apply.
Even if none are affordable, there’s still options - for example, W Carolina is dirt cheap and you mentioned UNCW - which is a fine school.
So Arizona will be $20K merit with a 3.89 - so that brings you to $35K ish. Fine school.
I don’t know how Alabama works for merit sans test score - but their page shows you can get merit test optional. You might call and ask. Same with UAH. If you had a test score, they have huge merit. Without, I’m not sure.
A WVU will be $30K ish with $10K merit. They have neuro A Mississippi State is $24K after $12K scholarship. You could make the major/minor work there too.
There are solid schools and given this major is headed to grad school, any of these schools are just as good as the next - even UNCW - which by the way is very solid.
Lots of options if you want to pursue them.
Good luck.