I have worked a few years at a performing arts high school in Lincoln center blocks from Fordham. I know plenty of parents and colleagues whose children attended LaGuardia High school (across the street from my former school) for the performing arts in Lincoln Center.
I will admit perhaps it was proximity as kids wanted to leave the neighborhood, but none of them; the kids from my school or the kids from LaGuardia went to Fordham after graduation. They either went to Tisch or they went to Purchase, which is the theatre school if you are going to SUNY.
There is nothing about Fordham other than NYC, your D would actually be able to do a lighting design concentration at purchase (something that Fordham does not have).
https://www.purchase.edu/academics/theatre-design-technology/requirements/lighting-design/
If it is not financially feasible you may have to bite the bullet and let her know now (you still have another child yo put through college). She may need a gap year while applying for an affordable option.
See if she can still apply to Purchase. Save the money for her to do internships in NYC or to launch her in NYC after graduation.