We went through similar process with S20. Looking for a good business school but not full-pay so top schools like NYU or Wharton where no merit is offered were off the table. Needed merit to get cost below $50k. His stats weren’t as good as yours.
Your in-state option will probably be most reasonable. Rutgers will not be HS 2.0. Too many kids and international students. I’ve worked with several Rutgers grads. Very sharp.
As for plane rides see which cities have direct flights from your airport in NJ. Is a city with several daily non-stop flights of 2 hours worse than a 6-12 hour drive to an out of the way school? For us the answer was no.
Fordham should be on your list. Pitt could be a nice option. Apply early. South Carolina has an excellent international business program and most likely the cost would be very reasonable. We both really liked Northeastern. I was also pleasantly surprised with Drexel and Temple after visiting their business schools. Did not like the area around Temple though. Full disclosure, I’m a biased grad for Pitt and South Carolina.
SMU Cox probably ended-up 2nd on S20’s list. Great offer including BBA Scholar. Just couldn’t visit because of Covid so it fell off the list. Lots of flights to Dallas.
Georgia Tech’s COA is $50k/year but with AP credits you can easily graduate in 3 years. Add internships and/or a Co-op and it becomes very attractive. S20 is on-track to go 6 semesters. He’s had one internship plus a Co-op starting this fall. Lots of flights to Atlanta.
Reconsider UNC KF. It’s a competitive admission to KF and it’s holistic. No guarantee you’ll get into the business school even if you have a high GPA.
Look at Poets and Quants for some ideas of schools.
Good luck.