You have done a great job of pulling together a (long) list of places that fit your interests- but the ‘fit’ part is still out there.
Without knowing why your current school doesn’t ‘fit’ you (separate from interests), it’s hard for anybody to give you good advice about what will. Reading your posts, I am inferring that 1) where you are is more ‘hard-core’ liberal than you prefer, 2) is less sporty than you prefer, but mostly 3) you are homesick/lonely.
But: does a very structured place with a strong community ethos feel comfortable to you- or confining? does a very open place, with a ‘go your own way’ ethos feel liberating to you- or lonely? As for “intellectual vibe, but also the ability to have fun and party”- it matters what you consider having fun and partying. Seriously.
Now that you have spent a semester as part of a college community, and seen how you interact with it and the reality behind the college tour, have you visited/revisited any of these places? You should at least visit/revisit the ones that you are most interested in.
And re-check how you are weighing the metrics you are using: you say a “mid-large sized city than current” but still have Midd & Williams- 2 of the most famously isolated examples in that tier of school- on the list, b/c it’s within an hour’s drive of an uncle. To me, that needs more parsing.
tl;dr- most of the places on your list will do what you want academically, but you need to focus on how you will feel / fit. Academics are the raison d’être for going to college, but fitting into the community- as you have learned the hard way- is what gives it life.