I’m making my way through the thread (have read about half way and some of the summaries) and want to suggest a closer look at Vassar. It seems like in your summary of Vassar you may not have gotten a feel for why it might be a good fit. It is beautiful, excellent science programs, non-Greek, opportunities for political activism, in the Northeast and full of intellectual and interesting kids. It also has lots of great performances in the arts. It’s definitely worth a visit based on how you describe your daughter.
Also, I know that many have commented about being cautious re: the list and that some matches are really reaches etc. Yes, it is wise to have low or reasonable expectations about acceptance to schools where the rates are under 25%. However, if she continues spending time crafting her list and putting a lot of effort into her essays, it is possible to get into some reaches as an unhooked applicant. You never know. My S19 just finished the application cycle as an IB diploma kid with 36 ACT from GA. He had some strengths to his application but definitely no hooks. He had only two rejections out of 16 but multiple wait lists. However, he was accepted to some reaches including Brown and Vanderbilt. I do agree to get the safety thing worked out but she may get lucky with her reaches as well.