Your daughter sounds similar to mine is stats and personality 
My girl felt the same way about Wesleyan, but was Waitlisted, so please encourage her to have some options. Mine ended up at Trinity College, and she is thriving with the small class sizes, building great relationships with professors, and is doing a lot of volunteer work throughout the Hartford community. It is still a bit close to home so she has a safety net if she needs something. She also has the option to transfer to Cornell her sophomore year if she wants, but has concerns over campus size (and cost)
Good luck to your girl!