My child applied to Brown last year and was denied. When we first started the process, we were simply comparing her stats to those of accepted students. On paper, her stats fit. But we were really ignorant about holistic admissions in the beginning. By the time decisions came out, she was 100% certain she would not be accepted. Applying to Brown didn’t cause any stress, because she had no expectations. It was more a case of “you definitely have no chance if you don’t apply.” She really loved Brown, but it wasn’t going to happen and she had more realistic reach schools that became her top choices. She got into the one she now attends. If you like, read about it here: http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1878059-truthful-advice-about-getting-into-top-colleges-for-your-average-excellent-student-p1.html
As far as the CC community, yes, I have found this community hugely supportive and helpful. I know without doubt that the process would have been a thousand times more confusing and stressful without all the free, helpful advice that people give here.