Hey! What's wrong with us black girls?

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<p>Yeah, cause the “thank your lucky stars” comment and cussing later made you seem so nice and understanding? Maybe next time you should drop the attitude and simply ask if something was directed towards you or not. </p>

<p>In this case, since you’ve made a comment in the past that you prefer guys to be around 6’, sure, you have a part in it, but it wasn’t meant in a negative way at all…and certainly wasn’t directed right at you since I didn’t think about that post in particular…much less remember that it was you that said it. </p>

<p>But yeah, I know I’ve seen many people (of all heights and both genders) post about height preferences here on CC, so I don’t feel the need to go searching through all the dead threads. I also know many girls and guys in my life that prefer certain height ranges. That type of preference really isn’t a rare thing to come across.</p>

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<p>You seemed so nice and understanding? Last time I checked, questioning my mental behavior and calling me paranoid WASN’T understanding and I took offense to that because I know close friends who are not mentally stable. So you’re guilty of the same thing. </p>

<p>And I am entitled to my 1st Amendment Rights. If I want to say you’re a pretty little cupcake, I can say it. If I want to say that you’re a really stupid *****, I can say that also. Don’t dictate what I can say and what I cannot say.</p>

<p>Oh, you’ve seen so many people who have height preferences? How come when Loslobos et al. were attacking me for saying that a guy must be 6’0", you didn’t defend me by saying that my statement wasn’t uncommon?</p>

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<p>If I do, in fact, have the right to turn down anyone for a date. Then I choose to turn down anyone not white. It’s my preference. Everyone has the right to set a criteria for a mate. It just so happens that one of the attributes in my criteria is white.</p>

<p>As for your comment on me not being “deep”, what does that have to do with a girl asking me out? Before you respond with “girls love this and that” I advise you to think before you type. You certainly aren’t an expert on the subject. But you are right, no girls will be asking me out any time soon; I’m engaged to a very wonderful women.</p>

<p>Again, you don’t know me. You’ll never know me. Thus, you can never have an accurate opinion of me. </p>

<p>Cheers</p>

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<p>All this for using height preferences as an example? Geeze…calm down already and admit that you took my post wrong, got a snippy little attitude, and won’t just let it die and get over it. </p>

<p>My less-than-chipper posts have been in response to your excessive attitude that you’ve had from the start. You shouldn’t expect to start throwing around threats and foul language without a negative response back. </p>

<p>By the way, I’ve been laughing and sharing your amazing threats with friends (who are also laughing) this whole time. They especially loved the Marine/CIA rant. </p>

<p>Anyway, my initial posts weren’t, I repeat WEREN’T any type of attack on ANYONE for ANY type of preferences they may have for partners. This is the last time I’m saying it. That is all.</p>

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<p>Why don’t you admit that you took my post wrong, you started getting snippy and really childish (come on…are you mentally unstable?) and apologize for the name calling?</p>

<p>If you hadn’t started attacking my character and saying I was mentally unstable and paranoid, none of this would’ve happened. So keep pointing the finger at me, because you’re going to have 3 pointing right back at you.</p>

<p>YOU DROP IT AND YES YOU DID ATTACK ME BY CALLING ME UNSTABLE AND PARANOID. AND THIS IS THE LAST TIME I’M GOING TO SAY IT. Quit lying.</p>

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<p>Paranoid is true, though. You have to admit that since you automatically assumed someone was attacking you just because you happen to like tall guys. I’d understand if I was saying, “OMG, this is the dumbest and most shallow thing ever, but some people actually prefer for guys to be 6’ or taller.” Which really wouldn’t make much sense to say since I prefer guys to be between 6’1 and 6’5, myself.</p>

<p>The mentally unstable thing…yeah, I probably shouldn’t have started with that…I can give you that one…but it was just said out of surprise from the attitude you had for no apparent reason.</p>

<p>But this isn’t exactly the first time you’ve taken a post out of context and gotten all bijiggetty over something dumb. Just look back to Wutang’s thread where you went off one some guy for answering your question that he had dated someone close to the type girl you said he probably wouldn’t. Just saying.</p>

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<p>No I’m not paranoid and if you have to resort back to another thread to attack me, I pity you. And thanks, for calling me paranoid. I’ll let the mod know about that. And I went off on that person a long time ago when he started flaming me on the CC cafe within minutes of our posts in that thread and a moderator took care of that. So please if you don’t have any knowledge of what happened, keep your mouth shut.</p>

<p>have a nice night.</p>

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<p>You attacked me for no reason at all. What does that say about you?</p>

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<p>To answer the original question:</p>

<p>In theory, I would have no problem dating a black girl. I have hooked up with two in the past but both times it was a one-night type of deal.</p>

<p>Most of the black girls I have encountered very much subscribe to a certain culture (?) which includes listening to mainstream rap music, dressing in a certain way, and being vocally confrontational, often times when it is completely unnecessary. I have met plenty of white girls who fit the same description.</p>

<p>Simply put, if I were to date a black girl, I would want her to possess the same qualities I look for in white girls (minus skin color of course.)</p>

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<p>I didn’t attack you. You attacked me by questioning my mental stability (and called me paranoid not once, but twice now) when you didn’t take into account that I may have relatives who are not mentally stable. What does that say about you?</p>

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<p>I think the problem that people are having with you is that you refuse to admit that you are a racist. By the definition of the dictionary, you sir, are considered racist. You can label it as preferences or whatever but you are racist if you discriminate who you date based on race.</p>

<p>No one can make the claim that you don’t have the right to only date white people because the simple fact is that you do and no one can take that away from you. But that very act is racism in its purest form. </p>

<p>No one can also say that you are a bad person(though with your ideals it would be interesting to know what other ideals you hold on race) just because your racist, as we don’t know who you are or what type of person you are. But as you know people that are considered racist don’t have a pristine track history, so that is the reason for the comments.</p>

<p>What I think would make people happy is to just admit you are racist (at least in the dating sense) because by the definition of Webster, Oxford, and every other dictionary in the world, YOU ARE RACIST.</p>

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<p><em>sigh</em> whatever.</p>

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<p>Wow, seriously people, fighting over whether or not people will date a certain race is kind of stupid. So they don’t want to date anyone other that white people, what the big deal? That’s just what they’re attracted to. It’s not being racist if it’s a preference. I could say I’m not attracted to Asian guys, does that make me racist against Asians? Of course not. It’s only when you get to stereotyping about all people in a race (ie “I wouldn’t date an Asian guy because they all have small *****es” or “I wouldn’t date a black girl cause all black girls are loud and annoying”) is when it’s racism. And no I don’t believe those 2 things, just for reference. </p>

<p>I’ve had a guy tell me he wouldn’t date me because I have red hair, and another tell me he thought I was hotter because I was a redhead. It’s the same with eye color or skin color. Personally, I’ll date just about any guy if I find them attractive. I do love blue eyes but that is by no means a requirement. My ex-boyfriend that I was madly in love with was Hispanic. I think Taye Diggs is one of the most gorgeous people I’ve ever seen. But you can’t fault people for what they like, no one has a set formula for calculating exactly who they’re going to fall for/think is attractive.</p>

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<p>Thank you. </p>

<p>It’s over. </p>

<p>Checkmate. </p>

<p>Move on.</p>

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<p>Racist is stereotyping people, racist is disliking people, racist is offending people based on their race. * The dictionary does NOT say that someone has to have sex with another race to appreciate their culture, or personality. Racist is accusing a white person of being racist because they don’t conform to your standards - which is a stereotypical assumption, that all people who do not agree with you are racist.</p>

<p>“the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, esp. so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.” – the definition of a racist.</p>

<p>I have a right to set a criteria for a mate. You, or anyone else can’t take that right from me.</p>

<p>In closing, and I promise you it is closing (I won’t be posting in this thread anymore). Choosing not to date a certain type of people doesn’t make me racist. It makes me picky.</p>

<p>Cheers,
Alex</p>

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<p>For the people who insist interracial dating/marriage is wrong because it bothers the old establishment, get an injection of idealism and romanticism. </p>

<p>For the people who insist that people are more comfortable with others who “look like them”, go clone yourself and have sex every day with it because then, by your definition, you’d be the happiest person in the world. </p>

<p>For all the people who fail to realize that a partner/spouse is often the most intimate person in your life, and making racial parameters for that role in life is textbook racism, please realize that racism did not end with MLK making a pretty little speech in Washington D.C.</p>

<p>For all the people talking about cultural and religious difference, realize that not all minorities are clueless immigrants ruffling feathers everywhere with their inscrutable and barbarous ways.</p>

<p>Look at all the great interracial couples in celebdom: Heidi Klum (White) and Seal (Black), Paradorn Srichaphan (Asian) and former Miss Universe Natalie Glebova, Tony Parker (Black) and Eva Longoria (Latina), David Bowie (White) and Iman (Black), Russell Simmons (Black) and Kimora Lee Simmons (Asian), and on and on. Race is only as small or big an issue as you choose to make it.</p>

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<p>I agree with you nbachris. </p>

<p>Honestly, it doesn’t matter what people think of you if you’re with someone of a different race because <em>you</em> are the one who is going to be with that person from the day you make your vows to death. (If you’re considering a serious relationship). Don’t let people dictate who <em>they</em> think you should be with. Live your own life and be content with the choices you have made.</p>

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<p>Whats wrong with you is that you ask stupid questions like this.</p>

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<p>“Honestly, it doesn’t matter what people think of you if you’re with someone of a different race because <em>you</em> are the one who is going to be with that person”</p>

<p>I agree with this, although there are circumstances that you have to consider. I know people whose parents would disown them for dating someone not-white. I live in Alabama, so it’s a relevant topic for me. Even in the much less conservative surroundings of a university, there are still people who look at you funny out of the side of their eye when they see you with someone of a different race esp. black and white together, but not exclusively that coupling. For me it wasn’t as bad dating a Hispanic guy, but I still got those glances every so often. It can really take a toll on your mental state, if you let it, and no one can completely ignore other people and their judgements.</p>

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<p>Yes it is.</p>

<p>What Dictionary.com states.</p>

<p>Racism - Discrimination or prejudice based on race</p>

<p>Discrimination - treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favor of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit</p>

<p>Preference - a predisposition in favor of something</p>

<p>From this you can conclude that AlexGFX is by the very definition racist at least in the dating sense. He just needs to admit it to himself.</p>

<p>Now I think it is extremely ignorant, to base who you date on the color of their skin. With AlexGFX’s ideals that could mean that he could meet, date, fall deeply in love with, marry, and find his soulmate in a white woman but if her pigmentation of her skin was just a little different(same person, looks, and features though), as a white woman is a must, he would never of got to even the meeting stage, as he would of considered her automatically undateable due to her race.</p>

<p>HOW STUPID IS THAT!</p>

<p>I have never considered race as a factor and feel it shouldn’t be at least in the dating sense, though it is anyone’s right to do so if they feel it is a must. And some people are confusing race and culture. Black Americans have different cultures from Africans. Southern, East Coast, and West Coast, Black Americans have different cultures, just as South Africans, Rwandans, and Nigerians have different cultures. Japanese are different from Chinese just as the French are different from the Polish. People are acting like race and culture go hand in hand when they don’t.</p>

<p>Though no one should hate Alex for his ideals, as everyone is a racist in one way or another. I’m not racist in the dating sense, but in other ways I am.</p>

<p>When I go to pick teams for basketball, if I don’t know the people who I am playing with, I tend to pick black people before white people as I feel black people are better at basketball. A white person has to prove how good they are first before I pick them above a black person.</p>

<p>In debates I tend to pick white and black people over asians because I feel that asians are too quiet, have low social skills, cliquey, don’t speak up for what they believe in, and are more inclined towards math and science.(especially in my school)</p>

<p>In these previous examples I am racist because I have a “preference” for people in an activity solely because of their race. I admit it. Of course I know that not all black people are better at basketball than white people, and that all asians are quiet reclusives, as I know living counter-examples in a white guy that kicks lots of black ass on the court, and an asians girl that never shuts the **** up and is better at socializing than at school, though she still is a good student.</p>

<p>That doesn’t change that I am racist in those situations and that doesn’t change that others are racist in different situations.</p>