<p>You don’t say, thank you for your comments.</p>
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<li><p>Luckily my ds’s school is all boys and my dd will be going to a different school. The other mother which i spoke about, she and I have a plan to go into the school president when application season is over to talk to the president about this counselor. The counselor hold a lot of power, she write the recommendations etc so I don’t want to get on her bad side. The junior counselor knows my son very well, has taught him, etc. so we are trying to “manipulate” the process by giving him my son’s recommendations to fill out. Keep your fingers crossed that it works.</p></li>
<li><p>Son’s counselor has been about 20% encouraging and 80% discouraging. When he got into LEAD (she told us about the program after the deadline had passed and son begged to turn in application late), she said “that’s nice.” but then two weeks ago she was encouraging saying, “I didn’t know he got into LEAD, his application will be flagged and treated differently with special attention because of his LEAD status.” When I told her about him getting into Ohio State’s “Scarlett and Great” diversity weekend, she sent me an email saying “many students from our school are participating in diversity fly-ins.” My friend said to ask her what other schools since she said one of them might one my DS is interested in, so I did. The counselor’s “many students” were a total of 3 (where I was responsible for 2 of the 3), one to Grinelle (where I helped the student and gave him my son’s diveristy invite since my ds wasn’t interested), one to Cornell (again I gave the kid the invite and helped) and the 3rd to Chicago (I had nothing to do with it). </p></li>
<li><p>I do have to be careful because when I said my son had gotten a nice letter from the Latino recruiter at his #1 dream school, she mentioned the person by name so that tells me she has a relationship with the guy. Any advice anyone can give me would be very much appreciated. I don’t want my son’s chances to be hurt by this counselor’s attitude. I have decided that I am not going to send another email or contact her with any questions (I had really been watching myself with her and limiting my and my son’s contact with her.)</p></li>
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<p>I have to run but will write more about some “racist comments” I received from a fellow parent at our school. What is especially troubling is that my son’s school is inner city with 27% latino student population.</p>