Be sure to run the net price calculators for every college before you apply if finances will be a factor. FWIW you are unlikely to get significant aid from out of state public schools.
I would also encourage you to NOT become “infatuated” with any one college. The people I see who get hurt most by the college admission process are the ones who focus on one or two hyper-competitive schools and then don’t get in. Cast a wide net and recognize that (assuming no major hook) ND is a reach for pretty much everyone. There are so many colleges where one can get a great education and have a wonderful four year experience.