<p>Quality of life? Well, I guess that that’s really a relative concept, isn’t it?</p>
<p>Working as an attorney, for the first time in my life, I actually had some disposable income. I was able to pay off my enormous student loans in half of the time allotted, I bought one home and then another, I bought a car for cash and I have been able to put away a good sum of money for retirement. I can afford to take vacations that I once only dreamed about. In that sense, the quality of my life is fantastic. No, I’m not wealthy, but I am very comfortable, and I feel that I am living the American dream by doing so much better than my parents and grandparents before me. </p>
<p>Marriage and family life? Friends? Downtime? Those all definitely take a beating at times, but I’ve always been someone who makes much more of my time when I am busy than when I am not – efficiency, I guess you would call it. I rarely sit around watching TV and I rarely sleep really late on a day off. I make the most of the time that I have. Yes, I have definitely lost some friends along the way who were not able to understand the unpredictable nature of my job and the constraints that it placed on me. I think that you often find that lawyers working these kinds of hours often don’t settle down, get married and start families until they are 30 or later. In fact, if you look around at professionals (I’m thinking of lawyers, bankers, accountants, and people working in many other fields that require long hours (which, today, is quite a number of them)), especially in big cities, you will find that a large percentage of these professionals do indeed get married later and start families later than the traditional American model. Actually, the statistics show that in the last thirty years, the average age of first time moms has risen from 22 to 28. That’s significant, and I have to believe that it has something to do with women having more opportunities to begin careers. </p>
<p>Working parents (unfortunately, Moms especially) definitely have a tough road working as attorneys. Can you say nanny? Many take themselves off of the partnership track at law firms to work part time (not usually available until you have worked at a firm for several years first). The so-called “Mommy Track” works out for some and not for others. Oh, and keep in mind, too, that part time in a law firm usually means 30-40 hours a week, sometimes worked over the course of three days, perhaps with one day working from home, and comes with a big pay cut. It is definitely a tough road.</p>
<p>As for getting burned out, it definitely happens. Many people leave the practice of law at some point for just that reason. Others make a change – finding jobs that require fewer hours (though not infrequently the attorneys who make that change are disappointed that the job actually ends up requiring more hours than expected), going “in house” (though that is not the great utopia that it once was considered to be, and you take a huge pay cut to do it) or by becoming a contract lawyer, working whenever there is work to be done. I definitely feel that I have been exhausted and stressed out at times, but then I take a vacation, start a new deal and somehow find myself refreshed and renewed. That’s probably why I’ve been able to survive in this career so far. I am so grateful to have a job that challenges me every day – sometimes too much!
I would much rather be an attorney, though, than have a job that is slow and boring and repetitive, where I had to count the minutes until the day would be over. </p>
<p>I hope that that helps to answer your questions.</p>