how are parents notified of their child's grades?

[ihs76]

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I think most parents have enough sense to understand the difference between someone who is in over their head in a particular class vs. someone who might be having emotional or mental health issues vs. someone who is spending too much time partying and not enough time in class. Grades are a starting point. When they go south, you don’t automatically cut off funds, you find out what’s going on and take it from there.

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<p>Completely agree and hope that is the case.</p>

<p>DS just got a C (‘at best’) on a midterm. I know he’s working (very) hard at it and we knew it would be a tough class going in. He may end up with a D but he wants to keep working on it rather than drop down, so we’re very proud of him and supportive of what he’s doing. Fortunately, first semester grades are ‘covered’ :).</p>

[Pizzagirl]

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That’s great that you were focused on college…my opinion when I was an undergraduate student was if I looked at 1000 classmates whose parents pay 100% of college and 1000 classmates where the students contributed a significant amount of their own money toward college, a person would find that the students who were paying for college on their own required less parental monitoring than those whose parents were paying 100% of tuition.

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<p>Not my experience at all. I saw absolutely no linkage one way or the other. I do see jealousy, however, in the eyes of those who say such things – because it’s always comforting to believe that those who have more money (goodies, whatever) don’t “deserve” it somehow. It’s just another version of “any diamond ring bigger than my own is way too gaudy to wear in the daytime,” “any designer handbag nicer than I can afford is just for show,” and “any car nicer than mine is ostentatious.”</p>

[Nrdsb4]

<p>^^^^Along those lines, everyone who drives faster than I is a maniac and everyone who drives slower is an idiot.</p>

<p>Sorry, OT.</p>

[jym626]

<p>LOL Nrdsb4.
Reminds me of an old joke-- cop pulls over a driver. Driver says to the cop “why did you pull me over? I wasn’t speeding. But I passed a few other drivers who were”.</p>

<p>Sorry , also OT.</p>

[oldfort]

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What I struggle with is how you as a parent, not as a student at a particular school in a particular major, who has not taken particular classes with particular faculty, can possibly know in advance what should and should not be the correct grade to be achieved

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<p>Median grades are published for each class for each semester at my daughter´s school. Whenever my daughter gets her test grade, she is also informed of median score.</p>

[babyontheway]

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Median grades are published for each class for each semester at my daughter´s school. Whenever my daughter gets her test grade, she is also informed of median score.

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<p>And so then your daughter tells you her grade, and the median grade, and then you’re able to decide if she did appropriately well in the class? And she does this for every class?</p>

[missypie]

<p>My gifted/Asperger’s Syndrome/executive function disordered darling has managed to find himself on *Academic Probation *at a community college. He took two summer school classes…stopped going to one but didn’t drop it, leaving him with a 1.0 GPA. Once a student is asked to leave community college, that’s about it as far as higher ed is concerned. This from a kid with very high test scores, admitted to 8 schools with substantial merit aid at each. Now I’m standing over him, yes checking his grades and attendance and assignments daily, in hopes of raising his GPA so he can transfer somewhere else. You really never know what the future holds.</p>

[oldfort]

<p>babyontheway - yes, my daughter is an average intelligent person, she not a genius and she is not stupid. If she puts effort into something, she will usually do above average. The only time when it wasn´t the case was when she took a high level art history course, and she was the only one outside of the major. </p>

<p>My daughter will generally tell me her test grades as she gets them. We speak almost daily, and getting a test back is usually a big deal or discussion worthy. I will also get blow by blow of her studying right up to each prelim.</p>

[babyontheway]

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My daughter will generally tell me her test grades as she gets them. We speak almost daily, and getting a test back is usually a big deal or discussion worthy. I will also get blow by blow of her studying right up to each prelim.

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<p>OK, so it sounds like she tells you how she does throughout the semester and then you’re confident that she is focused on her studies. I think that is reasonable and sounds like a normal parent.</p>

<p>That’s exactly what I did in college. I told my parents how I was doing all quarter and was interested in sharing my exam grades because they were excited to hear. But since I told them all quarter long how I was doing, and told them how the quarter ended up, I didn’t think they needed me to prove I got the grades that I did by showing them online or requesting an official grade report be mailed to them.</p>

[blueiguana]

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I think that is reasonable and sounds like a normal parent.

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<p>At the risk of sounding like a broken record, you have now idea of what will be a reasonable way to parent a child that I’m assuming has not been born yet. Funny thing is, these little wonderful bundles of joy are the variable in your parenting equation.
I have no doubt you will learn to roll with it and parent your specific student in a way that is reasonable for them. It may however hold little resemblance to the ideal you hold now. That’s not a bad thing. That’s adaptation. As you can see here, there are numerous ways that parents approach this. Without knowing the journey the student and parent took to get to that place (as well as other extenuation factors that may only be know to the student and parent) there is no way you can deem what you think is ‘normal’.</p>

[babyontheway]

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At the risk of sounding like a broken record, you have now idea of what will be a reasonable way to parent a child that I’m assuming has not been born yet. Funny thing is, these little wonderful bundles of joy are the variable in your parenting equation.
I have no doubt you will learn to roll with it and parent your specific student in a way that is reasonable for them. It may however hold little resemblance to the ideal you hold now. That’s not a bad thing. That’s adaptation. As you can see here, there are numerous ways that parents approach this. Without knowing the journey the student and parent took to get to that place (as well as other extenuation factors that may only be know to the student and parent) there is no way you can deem what you think is ‘normal’.

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<p>Um, I wasn’t talking about me as a parent. I was talking about me as a undergraduate college student and my parents as compared to you guys.</p>

<p>As far as my kids, I have no idea what the future lies. What I do know is that the way that many parents on this thread treat their kids grades is a lot different than what was experienced be me and my friends while undergraduate students.</p>

[Pizzagirl]

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As far as my kids, I have no idea what the future lies. What I do know is that the way that many parents on this thread treat their kids grades is a lot different than what was experienced be me and my friends while undergraduate students.

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<p>Well, the world is a big place, BOTW. Certainly larger than “you and your friends.” And there are lots of different ways to parent, not One Right True Way.</p>

[babyontheway]

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Well, the world is a big place, BOTW. Certainly larger than “you and your friends.”

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<p>That’s why I said I was surprised because it was different. There have been many things that surprised me in life, and verification that a student really got the grades they said they did was one of them.</p>