<p>yeah but these days ppl flirt…w/literally everybody. and i know guys who are just too shy to even approach u, let alone flirt w/u. even some of the “hot” guys…</p>
<p>btw, i think directly asking a person whether or not he/she likes u is kinda awkward.</p>
<p>and also, about the coincidence theory…i don’t find that accurate too often…</p>
<p>I love how some people laugh at this thread…
as if they are above such things as relationships or are so capable at attracting the opposite sex that these posts are pitiful to them</p>
<p>i like this thread lol. it’s cute. sharing experiences is always helpful lol. so post moarr</p>
<p>Ok so I need some advice. Over the summer I started talking to a girl from my school and we ended up getting along REALLY well. Throughout the summer and eventually into the school year, we started talking a lot outside of school; we hung out at a lot of parties, gatherings with friends, etc. And generally at these gatherings we hung out exclusively with each other. Like others accused us of liking eachother/going out which sorta made things awkward but its so easy to talk to her that it didnt bother me at all. Anyway, about two weeks ago, we were at a party and talked to eachother for roughly 2 hours straight…eventually she held my hand and we hooked up. About a week later, the same thing happened and we hooked up again (things just worked out I suppose- she made the first move). She eagerly invited me to a party the next day, but I couldn’t go. Ever since, she hasn’t really talked to me/IMed me/texted or anything (this was last Saturday). I IMed her last night, and we talked for a while, just regular conversation (I didnt bring any of this up), and eventually I had to leave. She was always willing to talk, as whenever I ran out of stuff to say, she started another conversation. But she still hasn’t INITIATED any conversation today or last night like she used to do with me, which is kinda weird. What does this mean? I thought we really hit it off last week, as she seemed to really like me and she could probably tell that I liked her back. Does this ignoring seem like she wants to distance herself from me or does it mean that she actually likes me? Anyone plz?</p>
<p>^that’s a new one…well i kinda do that too myself i guess, to some small extent. and when i do that, it’s normally b/c i don’t want ppl to ‘talk’ and gossip. idk about others tho</p>
<p>I see. Anyone else?</p>
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Did you have a legitimate reason for not being able to go, and did she believe you? Because it sounds like you thinks that you might have been remorseful about hooking up with you (she was the one who initiated, after all, and she’s scared that maybe you just like hooking up with her and not really a relationship, or that you were just going along with whatever she was doing but then you regretted hooking up with her. She’s waiting for you to respond by ignoring you and seeing if you miss talking to her or if you care about her enough to initiate contact or a relationship this time. When you IMed her and started to talk about normal things the way friends would, she probably thought that you kind of wanted to forget about the hookup and instead be friends instead. She probably felt that she was the one who took the initiative to hook up with you in the first place (which probably takes a lot of gut and planning or whatever if she truly likes you) and thinks that it’s your turn to show your affection. Nobody wants a one-sided relationship, lol.</p>
<p>Just my 2cents as a girl.</p>
<p>I see. That’s great advice, thank you so much. Yeah I told her that I already had prior plans. We have actually never spoken about the hookups when we talk/IM…What do you think I should do now? Should I try to initiate more conversation or will that look too desperate? Or should I wait for her to IM me (which might not even happen)?</p>
<p>Don’t wait for her to IM you. She’s probably waiting for you to IM her. If I were you, I’d ask her out. Now. (Of course, that’s harder than it sounds-and you won’t really sound desperate that way.) But that way you’ll know if she’s interested, and you have a lot of reason to believe that she’s pretty interested. But if she says no, then you know that she’s not interested and just say like “Well, I’ll see you later then…I hope we can still be good friends.” or something like that.</p>
<p>Also, the “I have prior plans” is kind of ambiguous to her, because she doesn’t know if that means you’re just trying to avoid her or if you really do have prior plans. So, in order to show that you really did want to go to that party with her, it’s your turn to invite her to something this time.</p>
<p>wow, nice advice ana ivanovic!</p>
<p>A guy doesn’t need a girl to be “complete”. Seriously . . . live life and let them come to you. You’re only 14-17 anyway…well most of you are.</p>
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Lol thanks. I’m just saying what goes through my head since I’m a girl. What do guys think about?</p>
<p>^what do girls think guys think about?</p>
<p>Isn’t that answer rather obvious?</p>
<p>its so hard to talk to a guy when were both shy. lol, it think its cute though.</p>