How do engineering guys meet engineering girls?

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Women generally do not focus on appearance to the extent that men do. Things like personality, creativity, and resources also often have a notable impact. This type of additional factors can impact perception of attractiveness. For example, in one study some groups of men were shown pictures of a woman in an expensive car, and some groups of men were shown pictures of women in a beater Ford. The men were then asked to rate the women’s attractiveness on a scale of 1-10. The type of car the women drove had no significant impact on the mens’ ratings. However, when the same experiment was done with women rating guys, the women rated the guys in the beater Ford as notably less attractive. Another study found that couples in which the woman was notably more attractive than the man had the best chance of happiness and a successful relationship. When the woman was less attractive, the man often felt like he settled and was unsatisfied. However, this effect did not occur with women. The author writes, “What’s interesting is that the wives’ own attractiveness didn’t seem to matter — they were more affected by their husbands’ satisfaction, When their husbands were happy, the wives were happy, and when their husbands were unhappy, they were unhappy. They didn’t seem as responsive, or sensitive, to how attractive their husbands were.” I expect the root of these differences relates to evolutionary biology differences. Women generally place greater emphasis on the factors that relate to a good long-term partner than men do, and men generally place a greater emphases on the factors related to a good genetics for a short-term partner.

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<p>All this proves is that gold-diggers would date a man they had no attraction to. Most women are not gold-diggers, and the types of women who are will likely be cheating on their significant other with men they are actually attracted to. Personality means nothing, and there is no study you can link that can demonstrate women can be more forgiving of unattractive men with good personalities. Personality confers no evolutionary advantage to one’s offspring, and now that more and more women are becoming educated and earning salaries that either rival or exceed their significant others’, status and financial security are completely seen as useless qualities in men by most women these days.</p>

<p>I feel as engineers and scientists, we need to only consider those things that are quantifiable and useless abstractions such as “personality” should have no bearing in this conversation at all. You also fail to mention that one’s perceived personality is often a function of their relative attractiveness. For example, I’m sure you’re familiar with the overstated but generally true cliche of the charismatic but unattractive man being dismissed as a “creep”, while the attractive man who should be creepy by every definition of the word will come off as “confident” to most women. </p>