<p>why don’t you ask them the following hypothetical question- “If I was accepted at a private college costing 50 K per year, and I also wanted to go to med school or law school, which costs another 200k, can you afford it? If not, can you let me know what you can afford, so I can base my college search on reality and look for colleges that we can afford or get financial aid or where I possibly can get scholarship $$? I’m just looking for the truth, so 2 years from now we can all by happy with where I go to college”</p>