My daughters have similar stats - they are very good students but not special. There are SCADs of very good students. They have had to come to this realization.
We agreed that we would contribute out of pocket each year no more than $14,000 for each of them. So they are taking student loans, getting merit scholarships at schools where they are more top of the heap, and making of it what they can. The oldest one had the pipe dreams like you and quickly realized that it wasn’t going to happen.
We DID save some money - but that said even with me having a great career, and my husband owning a business we cannot shell out $65k a year for ANYONE. If you multiply the $14k by 3 kids in at the same time believe me when I tell you THAT is choking us. AND we don’t live in CA where the cost of living is astronomical. $200k to raise a family is CA is not RICH by any means.