I am too sorry that your D and you are going through this. From your description of events, it sounds like this should pass quickly. Good luck
Random thoughts.
People believe they’ve been injures/wronged. Over 100 years when people believed they were injured/wrong, they got out their 6 shooters to settle their perceived wrongs. Suing people for money instead of resorting to violence is considered a more civil way of settling disputes. However in today’s world of road rage, it could’ve been worse. (Is society reverting??)
I vaguely remember a TV ad back in 80s/90s. 3 scary looking Hell’s Angels on their motorcycles were waiting at a stoplight when some guy pulled up and barely bumped into one. All 3 Hell’s Angels got off their bikes and starting walking menacingly towards driver. Driver got out and began saying oh what are you going to do, beat me up? The bikers looked at each other and the one that was hit said, no, we’re going to sue you. I think the ad was for car insurance. (It was kinda funny)
Yes, there should be some correlation between actual damages and the claim. You just can’t pull some number out of hat. As to property damages, the other driver should get his car damages fixed up to blue book value and up to your policy’s limits. As to personal damages, there should be evidence of actual damages (eg hospital bills, MDs, documentation of lost wages, etc.) and you should be covered up to policy limits
I have a friend who is a chiropractor and was talking to him about a driver’s claims for personal injury (my wife had been in accident with this driver). My chiropractor friend said in his experience personal injury claims like this usually get settled for 3x actual damages (1/3 to pay actual bills, 1/3 to attorney, 1/3 to injured party)
This accident that involved my W was not a big accident. The guy visited the hospital (outpatient) a day or 2 after accident, had some minor medical bills (eg xrays, MD, etc). His claim also included multiple visits for massage therapy. My chiropractor friend and I had a chuckle wondering if the massages included drinks with umbrellas and happy endings. As the car my W was driving was in both our names, we were not only sued for 500K (our policy limit), the guy’s W sued us for loss of consortium for 500k as well. My W had to be deposed, very stressful for her. Our insurance company eventually settled all personal injury claims for 6k (guy’s W got 0).
IMO even if you don’t have a lot of assets, umbrella insurance is a must. In today’s world of medical bills, costs can escalate quickly
Insurance companies have a duty to defend you up to limits of your policy. Failure to do so could result in a claim for bad faith by you and could open an insurance company to punitive damages which can be very, very expensive for insurance company.
Take a step back, relax, and let your insurance company handle this. I can’t say don’t get involved, Insurance company should keep you informed of progress of case and what they might being agreeing to, and what, if any, liability you have after the settlement.
Again good luck.