<p>OP, like many other people, we had to fly to D’s college. We weren’t able to take even as much as can be crammed into a small car. Believe me, it can be done. It just requires a little more organization and planning.</p>
<p>First, and most important, pare the list WAY down. When in doubt, don’t take it. Remember, she’s not going to Outer Mongolia; if she discovers she needs something she didn’t bring, there are stores in Rochester. :)</p>
<p>Second, ship everything you can, especially the bulkies – winter clothing, bedding and pillows, towels, shoes. In fact, you might as well ship most of her current-season clothes; have her keep out a week’s supply, and ship everything else a few days before you leave. Use the Post Office’s Parcel Post; it takes a few days but is cheaper. For small, heavy items – books, school supplies, CDs, batteries, desk items like staplers – use the Post Office’s Flat Rate boxes. These are the best thing since sliced bread, and they also come in handy for care packages. If she has a printer, I’d take that to UPS; they will insure it if they pack it.</p>
<p>Third, visit your BB&B and check in at the bridal registry office. (I’m not aware of any other stores that offer this wonderful service for college students.) They’ll show you how the program works, arrange to have the items ready for you at the store in/near Rochester, and send you home with your list. Pickup couldn’t be easier; you take your list into the store, they bring the items to checkout, you pay and load them into the car. This is the best way to deal with big things that it wouldn’t make sense to ship, as in, the shipping would be more than the item costs. Full-length mirror, garbage can, room fan, desk lamp, bedside rug, picture frames, bulletin board – stuff like that. </p>
<p>Fourth, don’t leave home without a detailed list of things to buy once you get there, and plan on spending an afternoon at the Rochester Target. This would include toiletries, first-aid kit, snacks for her room, a game or two (I recommend Apples 2 Apples), laundry detergent, kleenex and paper towels, any cleaning supplies like Windex and a feather duster.</p>
<p>Fifth, see #1. Most college kids and their parents over-estimate the amount of stuff that will be needed. My D wanted to take every one of her 50 t-shirts; we finally agreed on a two-week supply. Storage is very limited in most dorm rooms, probably far less than what she has at home. </p>
<p>Sixth, don’t worry, Mom. 
Many have travelled this road before you. Make lists!</p>
<p>BTW, in most cases, I would join those who say to leave your son home. But since he’s on the spectrum, I think it’s important to make sure there’s space for him in the car. If you ship alot of stuff, and shop for most of the rest in Rochester, there will be room.</p>