Hi!
My son has just finished the whole applying to music school thing- and yes, the notion of safeties, targets and reaches flies out the window with audition based programs!
There were universities he applied to that were academic safeties, but musically the conservatory/program was highly competitive (10 people in one program, 20 in another etc.)and there were others that might have been academic reaches but he was a more competitive applicant musically.
If he’s set on the music component, my advice is to find schools that have his desired music major and then get a feel for those campuses- does he want a big 10 school with a strong music program (like Michigan and Jacobs/ IU), does he want to be in a city, does he want a smaller school, etc.
Once he figures that out, look at financials- I can’t stress how important this is!!!
Cast a wide net- look at schools you might never have thought of.
I know his college counselor wasn’t a lot of help because she just wasn’t familiar with the music school world/process. But The music major forums on here are a wealth of information and support- especially as you begin the intense process of supplemental, passing prescreens and auditions.
Hope this helps!!