<p>Bob, I’m so very sorry to hear about your D’s situation. I think you’ve gotten some good advice and hope that you’re able to get her some help soon. I can’t imagine how frightening this must be for you.</p>
<p>Atlmom said:
“SHe is 6 hours away in another state University with 82% instate quota…I think the ISS are clinging to each other and soon they will branch out to meet new people…we will see.”</p>
<p>This reminds of when my S started high school and knew no one. He was a mess the first few days, feeling like everyone knew each other. But I think it was more what you said, that the kids were clinging to people they knew just because they knew them, not because they were such great friends. He’s at a small midwestern LAC and seems to be enjoying it, but I know the transition hasn’t been without stress. My H visited for family weekend and took S, his roommate, and several friends from the dorm out to dinner. H said they were all very “careful” with one another, apologizing quickly for an imagined slight, etc. H said he realized that it was because the friendships were new and still felt precarious–and <em>very</em> important, like a raft to a drowning man.;)</p>
<p>As for high school, S met a kid on Halloween who became his best friend, and that was that–everything fell into place. Sometimes it just takes a little while to find those people.</p>