<p>Bob- can you and your wife go there, now and see for yourselves- is it normal freshman blues amplified by personal issues, or is it true depression? Could you go offer her two options- come home or get into treatment there, if treatment feels to you like it would work.</p>
<p>All I can say is you have to go with your gut, do not talk yourself out of your concerns, one of my Ds had a different issue and was 25+ hours away and it was very difficult to put my finger on it, I actually had an opportunity to work away from home in her area and took it, it took almost 6 weeks before I determined the problem and she did in fact withdraw for the term- and as a graduating senior. It was an issue of physical safety, but still would have been easy and was easy to talk myself out of my gut instinct for too long. </p>
<p>It was also easy to be blinded by the issues and to not want to force her to stop when she was about to graduate. If she does come home, she can go back, she can finish elsewhere, she can do something productive in the meantime, there are good things which can come out of her time away from school- though you may have to direct her to see those, as she may be overwhelmed with survival.</p>
<p>Good luck and go with your instincts.</p>